Therapy
for Women and Mothers with past Childhood Wounds
For Residents of the Carolinas & Illinois
Motherhood is a complex idea.
Every woman will have their own nuanced definition. Maybe you have never seriously asked yourself whether or not you wanted to become a mother. Maybe you realized you didn't want to be a mother and you were met with pushback from your own mother. Perhaps your idea of forgoing motherhood was met with doubt and a diminishing sense of your personhood. Many times our decisions are based on preconceived ideas that we haven’t challenged for ourselves. Perhaps you faced family pressure to have children because that is all women in your family have identified with, and without that identity, it would be too foreign. Maybe you felt too selfish for focusing on yourself and wanting to deal with your childhood wounds. Perhaps you decided to focus on your career because the idea of having children seemed like a daunting responsibility and wasn’t what you wanted to do. Whatever choice you made, your narrative is yours and yours only.
However, when we start challenging whether our narrative is being honored, respected or heard-this is when we have the opportunity to fully process it.
We all have dreams and they are carried deeply in the crevices of our mind.
Maybe our dreams were crushed by the opinions of your mother. The Influences of a mother wound can begin in childhood. A mother crushing a child’s dream can cause a mother's wound. Perhaps as you were raised your own mother dampened your high range of emotions because tolerating them would open her own mother wounds.
Many times, mother wounds can be quiet and aggressive at the same time.
We watched our mothers manage their relationships with others. Mothers are our role models and they prime children, especially young girls on how to behave in this world. You may have seen your mother be too passive, struggling on how to be assertive. Women are often misperceived as “bossy” when demonstrating leadership skills in the workplace. Young girls often exhibit leadership roles like “talks too much in the classroom” perhaps not to be defiant but because she is learning skills at a young age to speak up. Sometimes, young girls translate for their parents in a different language because their own parents struggle with speaking English fluently. The narrative of a woman exhibiting leadership skills at an early age may have allowed her to survive home contexts. Young girls learn at an early age that they can use their skills of being a high achieving student garners respect and honor.
In our memories of childhood, we may have a father wound or another repeated mother wound.
Maybe, the father was absent. Even if he was physically present, his emotional presence could have been a world away, leaving the childhood wound of emotional abandonment. Emotionally connecting with a child is a feat that involves intent and planning. Children respond to the intention of a caregiver. They light up when the parent recalls a particular toy or outing the child was wishing to do.
As parents, we all want to break the generational trauma we have witnessed as children and create a more fully present life.
Meet your therapist
Hola, I’m Veronica
I am a Latina, first generation daughter of immigrants from Ecuador. I had the benefit of learning from native Spanish speakers. As a bilingual and bicultural therapist I have been able to understand the very essence of living in two different cultures. During my childhood, I traveled to Ecuador in the summers and lived there months at a time. It was wonderful to see the magnificent mountains of Ecuador and to immerse myself in the culture where my parents grew up.
I am a mother of two beautiful children that have continued to challenge me to become a better person in this world. I have a supportive spouse who believes in me and encourages me to fulfill my dreams.
Investment
Therapy
Individual 50 minute and Assessment:
$230 per session
Groups
Trauma Sensitive Yoga Class:
$120 per month
Therapy is an investment that allows you to move beyond the past, focuses on the present and creates a vital future. We set aside money to pay for the plumber, home improvement projects, and vacations. Mental health benefits from a routine that includes weekly outlets for your mind, finding emotional support, and discovering ways to be more in alignment with your authentic self.
Payment will be required at the end of every session. Payment can be made online with a credit or debit card. Additionally I accept Flexible Spending Account (FSA) cards.
I see clients 1-2 times per week virtually, using a HIPPA compliant platform. I am not a paneled provider for any health insurance companies. I am happy to provide you with a “superbill” you can submit to your insurance company. One thing to consider with health insurance, if there is a diagnosis, it will be part of your medical health insurance records.
CANCELLATION POLICY:
My cancellation policy is a 48 hour notification policy. For appointments canceled in less than 48 hours, the session will be billed at the full fee.
FAQs
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Yes, one of my core beliefs is that I serve a diverse group of people and that includes anyone that doesn’t necessarily identify themselves in a BIPOC(Black Indigenous People of Color) group. Many women of different racial identities like of Jewish or Muslim backgrounds are welcome here. Women or mothers without a religious background are also absolutely welcomed here. I have over a decade of clinical experience working with a wide variety of cultures and backgrounds.
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I understand that EMDR therapy is not necessarily for everyone. Talking with your medical provider may be appropriate. However, trauma-sensitive yoga, journal writing, and traditional counseling are options to consider.
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Yes, trauma sensitive yoga is a very gentle way of listening to your specific needs every time you approach it. It’s very accessible and there are various modifications to the poses. This allows yoga to be done according to how your body is feeling that day. Age is really a number and I serve mothers and women in their 20s, 30s, 40s, and 50s.
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My journal prompts offer a full breath of your own personal emotional experiences. My style is to maintain you focused on your goals and this activity can go even further than just relieving stress.
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I offer a free 15 minute consultation to see if this is a best fit for you.